Still on the treadmill that is life!
Well!....its been a little over 12 months since I last posted a blog, and what a year it’s been.
For those who know, you know. For those who don't, I'll give you a recap on my story faster than a girl untagging herself from an ugly picture on Facebook!
In the very memorable year of 2020, I finally came to the stark revalation that I was a quote on quote 'Fat Fucker'. Weighing in at a personal best of 28st 3lbs (or 394lbs). I decided that for the sake of my little girl and wife, that I was going to sort my fat ass out (after I stopped sulking, obviously!)
So I decided for motivation reasons, (not vanity) to log my journey under the pseudonym 'THE FAT WELSH RUNNER' on various social media outlets. This gave my 'biscuit eating brain' a reason not to quit when it got hard...and it did get hard!! Knowing that hundreds of people were following me and more importantly, supporting me, I knew I was in it for the Long Haul. Because I can't take the 'humiliation' from that same 'biscuit easing brain', thinking that I made false promises to my followers.
So here I am, 1 year later and 75lbs lighter. Has it been a straight forward road to losing 75lbs.... NOPE! Was it at times, bloody hard work..... YEP! Did I learn a bucket load about myself in the process.... HELL YES!
And this is the reason why I've decided to hit the keyboard again.
Now in full disclosure, I still have another 40lbs to lose to reach 'this' goal weight. And when I hit another 40lbs lost, phase 2 of the plan kicks in (more about that another time). But for now I want to talk to you about the greatest piece of advice I feel I can offer anybody on a health kick, weight loss journey or whatever crazy fad diet you are trying this time, none of it is going to work without one thing.... MINDSET!
Yep! Sorry! It's 100% true. Mindset is the single most important tool you have to master if you want to lose weight and not put it back on faster than dog hearing a crisp packet. Then you have to understand how YOU tick, how your motor runs and that my friend takes some serious self refection.... So..… Are You Ready?!
Nobody wants to lose weight and then after a few months put it back on, unless you’re Christian Bale trying to land a movie role. When we set out to lose weight, most people try and lose our fat as fast as Amber Heards credibility. You start a 'FAD' Diet and you lose 13lbs in the first few weeks. This is a massive morale and confedance booster, you feel like you are on cloud 9 for days, but this is not good for 2 main reasons.
Firstly, nobody can sustain that speed of weight loss without making themselves unwell in the long term and you can't keep up with that pace week in, week out (and nor should you). Secondly, that feel good feeling you had after the 13lbs loss now starts to fizzle away when the next week its only -4lbs..... then -1lb.... then you gain 3lbs. The dream is over, 'This diet is SHIT, it doesn't work', you tell people as you're reaching in the fridge, grabbing another Pepparami and a can of Lager!
This happens because you rely and focus too much on the speed of results and not the quality. Are you ready for some honesty? If you are overweight, obese or morbidly obese, that weight didn't just pile on your frame in a few weeks. For most of us it took years and years to become obese. So what makes you think you can shift that weight that took years to stack on your bones? And now you think it can magically disappear in a few weeks or months..... WRONG!!!
One of my first big realisation moments was that if it took me 5 years to fuck up my body and health by scoffing pork pies and beer, then it's going to take a few years to undo the damage I stupidly caused myself. That's when I knew that no 'Fad' Diet was going 'fix' me, I needed to change my whole perspective on my life if I wanted to succeed...and that was not going to be easy.
I implemented some serious strict changes into my life, I was doing really well, the weight was dropping and I was getting fitter. Lots of medical problems I suffered from being an almost 29stone man were disappearing, Winner Winner Chicken Dinner!... but I still didn't feel fulfilled. I was STILL fighting the urge to eat junk food everyday and sometimes secretly eating my child's snacks from the cupboard at 11:30pm when my wife was in bed. I couldn’t control my mind and urges 100% of the time and the frustration of this was making me unhappy. And the unhappiness I felt made me angry and that in turn made me want to eat junk food again..... not a nice cycle!
If you didn't notice, the answer to my problem was written in the last paragraph!
'Serious Strict Changes'.... Unless you have the mindset of 'Jarvis/Vision' then setting yourself strict restrictions in your life never works. We are by nature rebellious creatures and telling us we can't have something, makes us want it even more. This is the point I discovered about Mindset. I learnt nothing slows your progress faster that a negative mindset. I learnt that if you have a positive mindset and if you believe that you can achieve your goals, then you’re already halfway there!
I learnt how to manage me. I learnt how to compromise with myself. I learnt what motivates me and what fuels me to achieve my goals. I tell myself every single day that I will not fail. I will not fail for my wife, for my little girl and most definitely, I will not fail for me!
Ill be taking more about positive mindset and the tips I use in-depth more, in my next blog. But if you need any help or advice in the meantime, then please contact me.... I'd love to help!
Remember... No matter how long you have walked in wrong direction, you can always turn around!